Slowing Down

Stephen Covey tells the story of a man who was walking through a forest when he came across a frustrated lumberjack.

The lumberjack was trying to cut down a tree and was swearing and cursing as he labored in vain.

“What’s the problem?” the man asked.

“My saw’s blunt and won’t cut the tree properly,” the lumberjack responded.

“Why don’t you just sharpen it?”

“Because then I would have to stop sawing,” said the lumberjack.

“But if you sharpened your saw, you could cut more efficiently and effectively than before.”

“But I don’t have time to stop!” The lumberjack retorted, getting more frustrated.

The man shook his head and kept on walking, leaving the lumberjack to his pointless frustration.

I think life can be just like this story.  There are so many things to do and so little time. You wake up and have to get your family ready for the day, get them to school, get to work on time, hope you remembered to put on two of the same shoes on.  I’ll be honest, I feel accomplished as long as there are two socks on both kids’ feet even if they don’t match!  Kassie also makes sure to tell Amber that I never have matching socks for her! (Thanks Kassie)

Life is already so hectic and busy before adding the stress of the holiday season. Sometimes we have to remember to take time to recharge.  It’s so easy to get into the mentality that there is no time to stop and we just have to power through until everything is done.  The problem with that, is that life always throws us a curve, and we may go months or years without taking some time to sharpen our blade.

When we go through our days without taking the time to regroup and recharge, we start to get stuck in a routine and begin missing all that is happening around us.  Time with our spouse and kids can become knocking things off a checklist until we can go to sleep, and then we wake up and do it all over again.  The deeper we fall into this way of life, the more we miss going on around us.

So what is the solution?  How do we get around this pitfall?  We have to learn to take time to stop, even when life is busier than we expected, and slow down.  Have a family movie night, get a babysitter and go out to dinner, take time each week to just spend time as a family.  You’ll find that even a small amount of time will help you recharge!  Amber and I have found this to be vital in our life.  As many of you know we began fostering back in June 2017.  We had no real idea how busy life could be until we, on what was a normal Monday night for us, suddenly went from D.I.N.K’s (Dual Income No Kids) to having two kids in a matter of hours.  We didn’t any on-ramp and these kids needed us more than ever.  We have learned the hard way that if we don’t take the time to slow down, life can begin to get the better of us.  We try to take time each week to do something as a family and make sure we have time for date night as well.

Dont be afraid to take time for you!  It will mean more to your family in the long run than you know.

Each Friday on our Church Facebook Page we will be posting a #FamilyLifeFriday moment.  This is just a simple way for us to take a moment each week to do something with our families.

We also will be starting a new Family Life Series called “Connecting to Whole and Happy” in October!  Join us as we discuss Marriage, Finances and Kids.  Join us October 7th for Family Communion Sunday, October 14th for Marriage, 21st for Finances and 28th for Kids. You wont want to miss this great opportunity.  On the 14th, 21st and 28th we will have giveaways!

 

 

 

 

Connecting the Dots

We’ve all seen those connect the dots, you know the ones that start at #1 and you draw a line all the way to the end. When you finally reach the end you are left with this great picture. This is a great image of life sometimes, we have so many different things going on (dots) that we are just trying to figure out how to get them all done and keep a little sanity in the end.

 

I think some of the most important dots our families face today are marriage, finances and raising our families. We all want our marriages to work, have the money to feel secure and enjoy life and to raise our children in a loving environment and set them up for success in the future. Connecting these dots sounds so much simpler than it is sometimes, well if we are being honest, most of the time it sounds easier than it really is. The real question is what do we do when the dots in our life don’t seem to line up like they are supposed to…

I have been fortunate to spend the last 7 years (in September) married to my high school sweetheart and best friend, we have enjoyed life together and have what we consider an incredible life together. We, just like everyone else, launched into the world ready to take on life together. We went through all the firsts, new cars, jobs, moving, eventually buying a house, and the list goes on. We felt blessed in so many ways except our dots began to shift. We, like most married couples, dreamed of starting our family…and as time went on and we were not able to do so, we began to struggle.  (You can read more about our Story in Amber’s Blog ) Life was not turning out quite like we had planned. We had two choices, we could have imploded or do the hard work and push through the trial. We chose the latter and are still doing the hard work of working through this journey everyday.

We have found so much healing in community with others, through our church family and in our relationships with our friends in the Sonshine Learning Center. Our hope is that we can encourage others who may be going through difficulties when the dots of life just dont quite seem to line up.

The good news is we dont have to go though life’s difficult moments alone! The Sonshine community is rich with love and support. As the Family Life Pastor and also a parent of two kids in Sonshine I am proud to be apart of that community, and am always available to any family in need.

Starting in September I will be hosting a morning mixer in the fellowship hall on the 3rd Friday of each month. Stop by from 6:30-9 for free snacks and just a few moments to unwind before you start your day. I hope to be able to get to know each of you better during this time.

In addition we will be planning some family fun events for you and your children! (Who doesn’t love free stuff that tires your kids out)

Tune in to our upcoming events page for exciting news on whats coming around the corner.

If you or any one you know are in need of prayer please send any and all Prayer Requests to: familylife.1stchurch@gmail.com

Business Cards with additional contact information available outside SLC office that include my direct cellphone number!

 

Joe Watson

Family Life Pastor